5 REAL REASONS WOMEN ARE SCARED TO MARRY YOU!

Some men have untoward behaviour which they should fast do away with. They should not overlook this or take it with levity. This is because these are some of the real reasons they are not known as ladies' men. These things are stumbling blocks to them settling down to have a long lasting marriage life.

Women are fragile vessels. They should be handled with caution. They should be given regular care and attention. Women are not the only ones to share the blame for hiccups in relationship. A great number of men are to blame.

Men who are experts at blame games should begin to examine themselves. They should desist from such acts. They should know why women are not comfortable with them. They should find out the best methods of cleansing themselves off anti-feminine spirits. It is important for them to know the real reasons women point at them with a long pole. Some of us African men have some of these bad qualities. It is better to correct them than living with them.

1. Dictatorial Tendencies:
It marvels someone to hear stories of men who beat up their wives. Instances are numerous in the country. It is totally inhuman to raise a finger at a lady, not to talk of punching her or using whips to flog her. But the truth is that some men are highly violent. Just a little provocation from their partners and they become flared up. This happens not only in Nigeria, but unfortunately, it happens in advanced climes.

A good example was a one - time heavy weight boxing champion of the world, Mike Tyson who punched his wife. He had no empathy because he said afterwards that the punch he threw at his wife was one of the best punches he ever threw. He was tried and jailed for this. At the end of the day, his wife had to divorce him.

2. Miserly Nature:
You have to spend on a lady. There is no route out of this. Men who are too frugal with their money are big time deceits. Even before marriage, a man has to spend money on a woman. There is a wrong notion by some men that it is only "geisha girls" that demand for money from men. Even a responsible woman that is ready to settle down requires good things. Whether petty things like recharge cards or tangible things like dresses and jewelleries, a man must spend. No man should deceive himself by avoiding spending because he has a working class lady beside himself. Whether a woman asks or does not ask for money, every man should be ready to dole out something. If a man always tells a woman he does not have money to give her, then the man should be ready to lose his position to another man who is ready to spend.

3. Lack Of Social Life: 
Just like bees and ants, man is a social being. The ability to interact and socialise effectively with women go a long way in assisting a man to get a wife. Apart from this, a man should create time for leisure and recreation with his partner. There should be time for picnic, travelling together for holidays and vacation, going to the beach and recreation centres, having breakfast, lunch and dinner together and so many other engagements. If a man is so rigid and sees no sense in a social life, then he could be isolated by women. If he sees no reason having social events every time a woman asks him, this means he has widely opened the door for the woman to come in, stay inside a little while and then go out.

4. Hoarse Voice:
Men who do not know how to talk to women are harming themselves. A man who finds it difficult to soften his voice when talking to a lady should start learning beautiful ways of talking to women. Such men should study women by learning how to sing lovely poems to them. This indicates they care. However, if the man talks as if he is screeching, then the lady may need to look at another way.


5. Inability To Interpret A Lady's Feelings:
A man who is not smart making meanings from everything a lady does is not helping matters. Ladies often do not like coming out straight if they meet a man they like. They are very good at using signs and symbols. A man should know how to interpret all these. If a woman winks at him and then smiles, he should know what it means. If the lady only winks without smiling, he should also make a good guess.

Also, if the woman first frowns, then smiles and later laughs, he should try to guess right. On the other hand, a man who does not pass positive comments on a lady's hair style, shoes or dress or even look up at her will make that lady see him as a "zombie." If care is not taken, the covert feelings such a lady has for him may turn out to become an overt hatred.

A man should know what it means if a particular woman is always greeting him, always wants to sit beside him and shows more interest about his personal life. A man who does not know how to read these signs and symbols in women might scare away a wife material even if he meets one.
                                                                                                Dr. Jerry Oyebade